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Do you suffer from laziness or infantilism?

What relationships have a positive impact on you?

Here are my observations of relationship with the self.

You are a compassionate and highly responsible individual, ever ready to extend a helping hand to anyone you perceive as in need, often at the expense of your own interests and life. This is an illustration of empathy that can be detrimental and destructive to many lives. Such a state frequently arises from upbringing that deprives an individual of the opportunity to receive rewards for their own actions while simultaneously imposing the burden of responsibility for those around them. Individuals like this often feel shame for their own success and productivity, influenced by the societal images they hold in their minds. This tendency is particularly prevalent among those from cultures that emphasize collectivist ideals.

The path out of this illusion lies within oneself, not in the external world. Our subconscious is governed by beliefs that lead us to experience various emotions, many of which are harmful. The solutions to your inquiries reside within you, not in the internet, in trees, in the sky, or beneath the earth.

  • Do you feel awkward in the presence of beggars or the “unfortunate”?
  • Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way?”
    Justifications will emerge, explaining why you owe something to others.
  • Write down and analyze these justifications.
    Self-discovery is an incredibly engaging pursuit.

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Observe the change and stay still.

It’s been more than half a year since I left Indochina. Many things changed in my life.
The amazing part is that I didn’t plan all of these changes. They happen naturally as you grow in your sense of being here and now.


Now, I am totally happy with what I have, wherever I am. I keep growing in all directions, and I don’t let my mind take full control of life but let it be part of it.


A few months ago, I could feel a bit of sadness in me about the idea that I had left “paradise.”
I realized that paradise destroyed the meaning of being for me. There was nothing that could make me satisfied with who I am and what I am doing.


I feel there is a huge difference in my perspective on life now and what I should do.
Too much comfort is good to have because, soon or later, it becomes your biggest desperation. You get a condition of mind that doesn’t understand who you are or why you live. It doesn’t matter what social status you have.

The human mind can make life seem stagnant, and if it becomes rotten, then you understand that there is no other way but to move and wash away all of those rotten, not working behavior patterns.


Silence the mind by observing the thoughts and feelings that arise. Stay still and see what you really are. Let the past go, and it will take lots of weight off you that you carry for yourself and those who taught you these misconceptions.


Get back to you and dance with the flow of life. 
May love be with you!

You are not alone. Love yourself!

Fears, resentments, hatred of someone—this is all stagnant mental and emotional garbage.
These are those parts of you that should have manifested themselves in certain situations, but you listened to your mind. You hid the emotion and pushed it deeper, where it had already taken root over all these years of living in you. It turned into a conviction and an automatic reaction to a certain type of situation.

Perhaps you were an inquisitive child and one of your close relatives told you everything to devalue any of your manifestations, even if it was a joke, and you, being inexperienced and incofident, took it and believed it, or took it and swallowed resentment or anger.
 
Now you are 30+ years old, and you notice certain patterns and cyclicalities of your ups and downs in the basic components of life:
health, wealth, love, and happiness.

You start trying to find out the problem with the help of all sorts of psychological and spiritual practices.
What is wrong with you?
Why do you have a constant troubles in some areas of your life?

As a result, you find in yourself an eternally ongoing dialogue with someone you have been upset about or angry at since childhood. 
After decades, you still have this conversation in you, and maybe even your offender is no longer alive, but you still subconsciously look for him/her in everyone with whom you communicate.

The pity fact is that you find the offender even in those who are absolutely different from the one with whom you often have an internal dialogue all these years.

You are like someone who sees hallucinations, and you are convinced of the authenticity of your illusory vision.

Accordingly, any person in this case who interacts with you will experience an undeserved attitude towards themselves, which will lead to the breaking of the connection between both of you.
For you, this will also cause a certain type of misunderstanding and disappointment, first of all in yourself.

Here, you will have to have a serious conversation with yourself.
Perhaps it will even be very emotional and supported by “special effects” in the sensations of the body.

It sounds interesting, isn’t it?
What to do, then?


If you are sincerely interested in my answer, then it means that you definitely haven’t be sincere with yourself; you haven’t spoken to yourself honestly, without any hypocrisy to which you conditioned, having identified you with your environment and pleasing it.
You have ignored or suppressed your own feelings that are opposite to the imposed belief.

Carl Jung called these shadows; Eckhart Tolle called them the pain body, In different traditions, they are called demons or informational parasites that live in the psyche.

The most exciting fact is that all of them are you—those parts of you that want your love.
So give yourself some love!
What is the problem?
Are you asking “how”?
It’s simple.
Love yourself.

May love be with you!

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Lust is not romantic

Since many of us are taught by the culture that surrounded us in childhood and also by the programs that we have absorbed from watching the mass media,

The image of romantic love is associated only with the instinct of reproduction.

Therefore, for many people, the relationship with a partner is entirely tied to the desire to satisfy their pussies and dicks, and for others, it is a way of manipulating others by limiting access to their genitals.

The greatest misconception from which more than one generation of people, representatives of different cultures and nations, has suffered

Especially in the age of technology, when the speed of information transfer has become instantaneous, and, of course, with the development and popularization of the porn industry, people have become even more hostage to their genital pleasures.

After all, relationships between representatives of different sexes are a very complex communication system.

Run with your desire to copulate, thereby supporting and developing the industry of pumping life energy out of you and those around you.

I will explain with an example so that everyone can understand what I mean:

Two young organisms have seen enough and read enough information that a man should be a male and have intercourse with all the females who look at him.

And a girl who should be a housewife at home but is a whore in bed.
This may initially be perceived as a joke, but after repeated repetition of these thoughts by everyone around, the joke becomes a joke in the stream of distorted truth.

Since the reproductive instinct is one of the strongest we have, it is therefore difficult for a young organism that does not understand the structure and characteristics of its body to understand that this is not the only thing that attracts us to a potential partner.

It seems that as soon as lust appears, it means it is love, and you must certainly master, appropriate, and focus your life on serving one of your instincts while ignoring others.

The consequences, of course, are completely ignored, either due to inexperience or deliberately ignored.

And after all, people sincerely don’t understand why things don’t work out for them with any of their partners.

The reason is the typical consumer attitude towards both oneself and others.

Now a question for the reader

How long ago did you understand that you were a product, and did you understand it at all?

Let this position be chosen consciously by many people so that they receive their material benefits.

And those who do not understand their status in the food chain and do not realize that they have been driven crazy and are stupidly let other monetizing their life energy in return, a system leaves them with their exhausted bodies and psyches? …

Here, I would like to leave us or you alone with this beautiful thought.

I wish you an endless, wonderful time now and true self-love!

May love be with you!

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Self-deception

It happens that you become attached to an idea and, on the basis of it, create within yourself a special vision of the world, situations, and characters.


Not everyone will be able to see the picture as it is with all its insides, and only if you are lucky or wise and responsible…


Illusions can be beautiful and inspiring.
When the belief in an illusory and beautiful idea is so strong that in the three-dimensional world, it seems that matter itself begins to succumb to changes in confirmation of the reality that you picture in your mind.
Disappointment will overtake you sooner or later.


Once the pain has subsided, then humility and acceptance of the truth comes, it can be so painful for beings who carried away by an illusion, this process can cause some injuries.


Endless and strong self-deception gives you strength so that you do not stop but continue to consume and become exhausted by your passions and do not dare to get rid of imposed thoughts.
Following such a lifestyle you are just a resource for maintaining happiness for those you never reach.

May love be with you!

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What is a rule for?

Rules are a very important component of any collective.

Rules help people understand the boundaries of everyone who is nearby in order to balance the principles that guide us when interacting with those with whom we have to share everyday life.

Another question is whether fanatics and greedy individuals distort the meaning of the rules and bring suffering to themselves and others without realizing it.
Everyone has their own special view of the world, life, and other things, which should be the way it is.

After all, the process of self-awareness through interaction with other people is interesting.
You can look at the interaction of two people as if two precious stones are flying towards each other at crazy speed, colliding, and then breaking and thereby acquiring new facets. As a result, each of them has consequences for contact.

When we come into contact with other individuals, we seem to clash in disagreements and thus sharpen our own edges.
by breaking each other’s misconceptions (by the way, this is a very good exercise in determining one’s own boundaries) and thereby helping each other a lot, but not everyone is able to notice and understand this.

Here, it is important to know about safety precautions.

After all, some people are not ready to admit certain facts about their own delusions, and a person deeply convinced of something may experience unbearable pain, which can lead to all sorts of injuries.
The adoption process should be smooth, as there is no rush.There is no time, but fortunately or unfortunately, you will have to understand the lesson.

There is no time, but fortunately or unfortunately, you will have to understand the lesson.

May love be with you!

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Be yourself

I share with you a lot of love, wonderful person!
Love yourself as I love you, and everything will work out for you.


You just have to believe that you already have everything you need to create.
Even just sitting on the grass, on the sofa, in an armchair, looking into the changing scenery of the sky—you create all of this!


I know that you are afraid to admit this because all the horror that people create was also created by you, and you know very well the price that you will have to pay.
By choosing pain, you create more pain because you show the universe that you need to pay close attention to the source of your own pain, whether you are fighting it or admiring it.


Ask yourself: Who and what are you trying to prove? Who made you feel forced to prove anything? What should you give, and what should you receive in return? You know the rules, right? The game began a long time ago, or maybe never ended.


The essence of the game is to find the true self in the endless reflections of oneself, and along the way, it would be nice to reveal that potential to show your unique and inimitable vision of the truth that everyone shares and which everyone is trying to talk about.


Clear all facets of yourself from shadows and glow, refract, and direct the rays further to those who walk in the dark towards themselves—that is, the path of true love!
The purer the facets of you, the more original the manifestation of what you are.


Shadows are just facets of those from whom you studied, and your facets may go beyond the experience and interpretation of the teachers, and then you are able to realize that it is worth paying attention inward, to where the source is.


This is where you need the courage to face the ugliness of your own delusions, beliefs, and limitations without fear.
If you peer into the darkness for a long time, light will soon begin to appear through it.

May love be with you!

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Letter to my “twin flame”

Day and night are always there.
Chasing each other
They seem to be separated.
Endless search—flour!
The sun roams the universe.
I don’t know where the light comes from.
The sun roams the universe.
Asking the planets where the light comes from

Have a great moment right now!
I want to share with you my reasoning on the topic of life, and I know that you will understand me. It’s so magical—everything that happens to us, the experiences that we go through…


Getting to know you turned my idea of myself and life in general inside out.
This process was painful, but I do not regret anything in any way. On the contrary, I am infinitely grateful for everything. You are the one in the life of my character who destroyed the false self that has taken possession of me since childhood.


By dying, I was freed from many beliefs that are harmful to me and to life in general. I saw that many people of different cultures are sick with a similar mental illness, specifically self-dislike, that is, ignorance. People destroy themselves voluntarily, and the «powerful» of this world take advantage of the lack of vigilance and ignorance of the masses.


Everything starts within yourself, and the world that surrounds you is created or accepted by you. Only you yourself are guilty of the suffering you go through.


If something that is uncomfortable haunts you, then you accept it and do not mind carrying it with you, and everyone has their own reasons.
People are sometimes ready to fight to protect the source of their pain.

I realized that it is necessary to respect the choice of each person, even the one who chooses the side of ignorance. We are all unique in our own way and are at different stages of development, both spiritual and material, but still, we are all one; therefore, I am with you and you are with me. Love you!


I know you are interested in what I share with you, so here is a continuation or perhaps another interpretation of the magic that happens on the way to life.
I hope you understand what I’m talking about in these posts.


If you ask me, why am I sharing this with you?
I will answer that perhaps this knowledge will help somehow on your path to self-improvement and development, and you are also a participant in the great process of evolution.


You and I personify the meeting of opposites, which are united in the unmanifested but opposite and irreconcilable in the manifested reality.


How the rationality of the mind and the irrationality of the subconscious, when interacting, cause suffering in order for the process of evolution to continue and be embodied through duality.

Let me share what it looks like from my side.
I play the role of rational thinking lost in itself, which finally met with you—irrational, chaotic, but looking like rational in order to lure the mind deeper into its trap; thus, the illusion of similarity worked. Having united the irrational rather quickly, he threw up the foundation of everything created by the rational mind and destroyed everything to the ground. This was the moment of death and resurrection (the death of the ego). This was perceived by the mind as physical leaving the body, that is, death. For the mind, this is a painful process, and the source of this pain is the irrationality from which the mind tries to escape, but understands that it is useless since it contains its opposite in itself. It is in the realization of oneness that the divine is manifested. Love is you and I both in unity and in the manifestation of opposites in relation to each other.


This is described at different times by different philosophical and religious views as Yin-Yang, Shiva-Shakti, Apollonian and Dionysian, Hermes and Hestia, etc.
It’s just incredible what paths our characters take, right?


Remember those moments when the waves of fear and anger captured you during our meetings? After all, the nature of this fear and anger is not clear to you, but the source of it is within you. I am only able to feel everything that you experience in order to better understand you and help myself and partly you on the spiritual path, consciously or not.

Perhaps you often question the universe, so the answers come to you through me and other manifestations of life in the form of signs and lessons. Whether you can see the lesson in the endless stream of your own worries and fuss, this is your freedom of choice. Vigilance will accurately help you determine yourself and your true location on the map of your life path, which is determined only by you. And who are you?

It really doesn’t make any sense. Such is my ability to see life from birth to rebirth and the meaninglessness of this process.

For limited minds, including my own, this is inexplicable and incomprehensible, which is mortally frightening since the mind is limited by the functions clearly laid down by nature in it.

When consciousness goes beyond the limited mind, the mind becomes humble, which allows the harmony of the symbiosis of the body, mind, and soul to prevail. That very Trinity is equal to the peace from which everything begins and with which everything ends.
We are one. Love you!

May love be with you!

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