relationship – mindfulbe

Are there toxic people?

The problem is not with people, but with the fact that we unconsciously choose them with a certain set of characteristics that will ultimately lead to an already familiar result, even if at a conscious level it is not desirable.

If, in childhood, you were ingrained in the pattern “without suffering, there is no happiness,” then each new partner will fall under criteria that will lead to toxic relationships. It will always seem that you are making the choice that you are striving for. In fact, you still don’t know who you are, and you are still learning the mechanisms of life through trial and error.

You see the source of desire or irritation, its merits and flaws, which are actually yours; you just cannot see yourself, so you see your own vices in others. The people around you reflect you in one form or another. This mechanism is the reason why we are able to understand each other.

The fact that there are conflicts and their frequent occurrence causes an uneven growth in awareness.

Awareness depends on some factors, but everything is not completely clear to me since there is no limit to awareness itself and factors change their functions as you move along the life path of growing awareness.

If you manage to turn your attention inward and keep it to yourself, then big changes will soon begin.

You will learn to feel your own body and mind.

After all, few, or perhaps many, people wondered why we were not given exact instructions for the body.

You will have to look for it yourself, listening to yourself. But how exactly do you do this? You ask.

The body wants pleasure, and the mind wants to know. So hear them by directing your attention inward.

You will think it’s crazy and a waste of time. You don’t yet realize that only silence means something in the world; everything is stored in it, and its meanings are broader.

May love be with you!

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Dance of fires

You are winter in summer, and I am summer in winter—the obvious difference between me and you.

This is the illusion of the duality of the world.
In it, we dance passionately and playfully. Sometimes dancing seems like a fight.
It’s a fight for life and death.

After the fight, we became one loving, feeling being.

There is no difference between up and down now.

We are illuminated by fire and love.
Everything seems as it was before, but something is different.

There is no pain, and we don’t cry anymore.
We laugh together now with the kindness of love in our hearts and everything looks so beautiful and unique.

There are no tears, and the eyes are clear.
We see the truth without fear without hiding anything.
We sincerely sharing light with the world Illuminating everyone and everything.

May love be with you!

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You are not alone. Love yourself!

Fears, resentments, hatred of someone—this is all stagnant mental and emotional garbage.
These are those parts of you that should have manifested themselves in certain situations, but you listened to your mind. You hid the emotion and pushed it deeper, where it had already taken root over all these years of living in you. It turned into a conviction and an automatic reaction to a certain type of situation.

Perhaps you were an inquisitive child and one of your close relatives told you everything to devalue any of your manifestations, even if it was a joke, and you, being inexperienced and incofident, took it and believed it, or took it and swallowed resentment or anger.

Now you are 30+ years old, and you notice certain patterns and cyclicalities of your ups and downs in the basic components of life:
health, wealth, love, and happiness.

You start trying to find out the problem with the help of all sorts of psychological and spiritual practices.
What is wrong with you?
Why do you have a constant troubles in some areas of your life?

As a result, you find in yourself an eternally ongoing dialogue with someone you have been upset about or angry at since childhood.
After decades, you still have this conversation in you, and maybe even your offender is no longer alive, but you still subconsciously look for him/her in everyone with whom you communicate.

The pity fact is that you find the offender even in those who are absolutely different from the one with whom you often have an internal dialogue all these years.

You are like someone who sees hallucinations, and you are convinced of the authenticity of your illusory vision.

Accordingly, any person in this case who interacts with you will experience an undeserved attitude towards themselves, which will lead to the breaking of the connection between both of you.
For you, this will also cause a certain type of misunderstanding and disappointment, first of all in yourself.

Here, you will have to have a serious conversation with yourself.
Perhaps it will even be very emotional and supported by “special effects” in the sensations of the body.

It sounds interesting, isn’t it?
What to do, then?

If you are sincerely interested in my answer, then it means that you definitely haven’t be sincere with yourself; you haven’t spoken to yourself honestly, without any hypocrisy to which you conditioned, having identified you with your environment and pleasing it.
You have ignored or suppressed your own feelings that are opposite to the imposed belief.

Carl Jung called these shadows; Eckhart Tolle called them the pain body, In different traditions, they are called demons or informational parasites that live in the psyche.

The most exciting fact is that all of them are you—those parts of you that want your love.
So give yourself some love!
What is the problem?
Are you asking “how”?
It’s simple.
Love yourself.

May love be with you!

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What is a rule for?

Rules are a very important component of any collective.

Rules help people understand the boundaries of everyone who is nearby in order to balance the principles that guide us when interacting with those with whom we have to share everyday life.

Another question is whether fanatics and greedy individuals distort the meaning of the rules and bring suffering to themselves and others without realizing it.
Everyone has their own special view of the world, life, and other things, which should be the way it is.

After all, the process of self-awareness through interaction with other people is interesting.
You can look at the interaction of two people as if two precious stones are flying towards each other at crazy speed, colliding, and then breaking and thereby acquiring new facets. As a result, each of them has consequences for contact.

When we come into contact with other individuals, we seem to clash in disagreements and thus sharpen our own edges.
by breaking each other’s misconceptions (by the way, this is a very good exercise in determining one’s own boundaries) and thereby helping each other a lot, but not everyone is able to notice and understand this.

Here, it is important to know about safety precautions.

After all, some people are not ready to admit certain facts about their own delusions, and a person deeply convinced of something may experience unbearable pain, which can lead to all sorts of injuries.
The adoption process should be smooth, as there is no rush.There is no time, but fortunately or unfortunately, you will have to understand the lesson.

There is no time, but fortunately or unfortunately, you will have to understand the lesson.

May love be with you!

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